And one day the shadows come, the real one, not the ordinary pain and sorrow. The first feeling is disbelief: it cannot happen, it’s just a nightmare, tomorrow it will go away. Tomorrow it’s even worse, you know that you are in deep trouble and your life has changed forever, no one is going to give your carefree days back.
Certain events in life change you forever, leaving a long, lasting impact on your soul or body, or both.
Whatever the cause, these events disrupt our routine, our habits, our certainties, our patterns. They remove the noise of secondary matters, forcing us to focus on the emergency. They act like rebels: they target the status quo.
We run but we don’t often know our destination, trapped by dogmas, living someone else’s life, like Steve Jobs said. In this anesthetized flow of events we may miss two pivotal points until its too late. The first is that life may be way shorter than we suppose. The second is that we have only one chance to be happy. There is a strident contrast between the need to to earn money to survive and our innate desire to follow our heart and dedicate our lives to the things we love. We have to choose early in life the educational path, often at 18 years old. What do we really know as teenagers? How can we even imagine what a job is intimately about?
When physical or psychological issues don’t let us function, a powerful energy that creates a resistance to the clueless flow of events arises. The introduction of this energy can have positive implications like enhancing our introspective capabilities that can lead to a more precise identification of our passions.
We can, therefore, learn to let go of the identity we built for ourselves or that the society built for us.
Liberating yourself from an identity can be a wonderful experience. For example, you may have always considered yourself to be a career-minded person, and this has meant that you’ve always put your job first, and your family and hobbies second. Free yourself of this constraining self-image, and you’ll be able to do whatever makes you happy.
This is how tragic and painful experiences can turn our life for better, without ever forgetting how lucky we are when we find the light at the end of the tunnel.
What were the most tough experiences of your life? And how did they change you? Leave a comment below